When couples divorce, the decision to do so is not always made agreeably by both parties. MSN notes that while almost 70 percent of divorces are initiated by women, serious disagreements about the divorce itself, child support payments and alimony could occur on either side of the split.
If you are involved in an acrimonious divorce, there are a few techniques you can use to avoid further arguments and aggression until the matter is settled in court.
Choose logic over emotion
If your spouse tries to goad you into another argument over a factor in your divorce case, try not to let your pride get in the way of reason. He or she may feel angry over past incidents or the divorce itself, but keeping your temper and your dignity can help you see the situation for what it truly is. Let your spouse know you will not communicate further unless you can discuss matters calmly. If this is not possible, allow your attorney to represent you from then on.
Be specific in divorce details
Your spouse may do all he or she can to sabotage the divorce, so work with your attorney when it comes to the wording of the decree. For example, if you plan to share child custody with your ex and this individual is granted visitation rights, have your lawyer state specific times and circumstances under which the children are picked up and dropped off to make the transition easier for all involved.
Toxic divorces often happen due to infidelity or a lack of emotional support from one side. This can cause the divorce process to linger on for months unless you understand how to lessen tensions between you and your spouse.